Ask Nora: How Do I Stop Replaying My Most Embarrassing Moments?

by Nora McInerny

In high school, I fell down the stairs in front of everyone. I mean, everyone. And to this day, I think about it all the time. If that sounds pathetic, well, there are plenty of other horrifying things that have happened to me in the past 15 years since graduation that I also choose to re-live, over and over and over again. My question is: how do I let this, and all of those other embarrassments, go?

I recently got a message from someone I hadn't seen in at least 15 years. This person was apologizing profusely for having put their foot in their mouth. They'd been unable to sleep thinking about how they'd offended me. They wanted to make it right. They understood if I could not forgive them for what they'd done, but they wanted me to know how absolutely sorry they were.

I had no idea what they were talking about. None.